STOP Saying This Phrase…It Will Get You Nowhere!

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It was fall of 2012 and I was off to cash a check at the bank.  It was a big check.  This check was going to really help my savings account so I could move out of Buffalo.  The idea scared me than anything.  I thought of backing out multiple times because it seemed hard.  Regardless of the fear and anxiety of leaving my hometown for a city almost half way across the country, I continued into the bank.

I met with a representative.  She was really nice and we got to talking.  She asked me why I was saving the money. I replied, “I’m moving to Austin, TX next year.” What she said next made me feel sorry for her (and motivated me even more then she’ll ever know.) She replied with this…

“I wanted to move to North Carolina at one time but, IT’S TOO LATE FOR ME NOW.”

When I heard this, I was speechless. I wanted to just shake her! She was around my age, could get another banking job in heartbeat, and seemed like an individual who could take care of herself financially and socially. She also complained about Buffalo.  She said she was sick of her hometown. She wanted change! She would be a perfect candidate to move away from where she grew up and start over somewhere else. Why again was it too late to make her dream come true? WHY WAS IT “TOO LATE” FOR HER TO CHANGE HER LIFE?

If you couldn’t figure it out, she was afraid.  She was afraid to move, afraid to change, and afraid to take the risk.  Excuses ranged from “my family is here” to “I worked so hard to gain this position in the bank.”  This woman worked in one of those clear cubicles at Bank of America BTW! What a terrible excuse! I’m sure she could have found a lateral move somehow if she chose to do so!

Those words from her mouth were one of the many motivating factors pushing me towards Austin. Despite her unhappiness in her current state, she wasn’t going to do damn thing about it. In 5 years, you were not going to find me sitting at a bar stool somewhere around Buffalo in 2018 wondering, “what if I went to Austin? What would have happened to my life? Oh, I wish I moved!” If I didn’t like something about my current situation, I was going to change it, not complain about it until it was “too late.”

Regardless if it’s a move to another city, changing a job, or even just trying new activity you are afraid to do, it’s NEVER “too late” so stop saying that!  YOU control your destiny and future, NOT fear.  Fear will keep in you same place you were the day before and the day before that day.  Moreover, going outside your comfort zone is good for you! You will learn so much about yourself when you try something new. Take the plunge into the unknown one of these days.  It doesn’t matter what you choose. Sure it’s terrifying, but it will be worth it.  You will never wonder “what if” ever again.

Finally settling into Austin…IT’S MOVE IN DAY!

This past Friday was move in day! I moved on January 10th!

I know Kasia and Ron were glad to get me out of their house and into a place of my own but I have a feeling there are going to miss me (maybe not a lot. Only a little bit.)  I’d be happy to have some personal space back after another person has been taking up space up for three months too!

I definitely will miss those pups. I got a bit too attached to Boss and Daisy.  I MAY be tempted to adopt a wiener dog myself one day.  I told Ron and Kasia I was packing the Boss with me to my new place.  They weren’t having it.  I’ll keep trying to sneak him out.  He will be mine!!! Look at how cute those guys are !!! { How could I not want to steal them! 🙂  }IMG_3036

Per Usual, move in day felt like a long day of manual labor…which it is.  At least there was a light at the end of the other side of apartment #1004, my own place to rest my head.  Moving the big pieces like the bed, mattress, coffee table, and TV were a bit nerve racking.  Most of it was strapped on a truck.  I had visions ( or nightmares) or my few things I actually own at this point flying off the back of the truck and on to the interstate. Oh the scene on the 35 would be horrendous…cars damaged…my stuff damaged…OYE!

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THANKFULLY, that didn’t happen.

Walking into my place despite the piles of stuff just hanging out on top of my mattress and box spring over the living room was such a good feeling.  This space was mine.  It’s my sanctuary.  My stuff.  My place to lay my head.  Now I just had to organize it all.  It took all day and at night but by 7PM I was done with the basic set up.  I even got immature and named my wifi link canttouchthis…Is that weird?

I’m excited for the new start in Austin! Bring it on…I’m not couch surfing and now I can relax in my own space…now all I need is My Dale here with me 🙂

Just leaving it decorated like that! Boxes of appliances IMG_4055 poolside courtyard Relaxin' ... all  done! Welcome home! IMG_4065 My Living Room

Happy 2014!

Colourful 2014 in fiery sparklers

 

It’s been an incredible year.  I can’t believe the changes between this January and last January.  I’m in Austin for my fresh start.  My apartment lease is signed and I am no longer a couch surfer! I move in January 10th!!! Bring it on 2014!  Here’s my 2014 bucketlist ( NOT resolutions!) I’m pretty sure things will be added as the year goes on but it will be exciting to see what I’ve accomplished a year from today.

Here goes the list…

  • Get my FT job with benefits that allows me to support myself independently
  • Get back into my work out routine
  • Read at least 1 book every 2 months
  • Get all my Dr’s in TX
  • Fix my Wisdom Teeth
  • Re-furbish my shelves
  • See more live music! ( Lorde, Arcade Fire, Young the Giant…ect)
  • Get my tattoo
  • See Sheena and Jesse and San Diego
  • Go to Las Vegas
  • See Marie in San Francisco
  • Eat Better
  • Raise my credit score
  • Save more money! $$$$
  • Buy Cowboy Boots
  • Buy a Bike
  • Learn Spanish
  • Get Dale and visit Buffalo
  • Hike the Greenbelt
  • See all the art museams in Austin
  • Visit San Antonio
  • Volunteer more
  • Get involved in the Pi Phi Alum group
  • Join a kick ball team
  • Do one nice thing per day …big or small
  • Stop negative talk to myself
  • Explore and discover new things about my new city once a week
  • Join an art class
  • Finally, Visit Mexico
  • See Bills vs Texans next fall!
  • See the WVU vs UT game next fall!

As I said, I know things will be added…ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME ON ANY OF THESE ADVENTURES OR ADD NEW ONES TO MY LIST!?