It was fall of 2012 and I was off to cash a check at the bank. It was a big check. This check was going to really help my savings account so I could move out of Buffalo. The idea scared me than anything. I thought of backing out multiple times because it seemed hard. Regardless of the fear and anxiety of leaving my hometown for a city almost half way across the country, I continued into the bank.
I met with a representative. She was really nice and we got to talking. She asked me why I was saving the money. I replied, “I’m moving to Austin, TX next year.” What she said next made me feel sorry for her (and motivated me even more then she’ll ever know.) She replied with this…
“I wanted to move to North Carolina at one time but, IT’S TOO LATE FOR ME NOW.”
When I heard this, I was speechless. I wanted to just shake her! She was around my age, could get another banking job in heartbeat, and seemed like an individual who could take care of herself financially and socially. She also complained about Buffalo. She said she was sick of her hometown. She wanted change! She would be a perfect candidate to move away from where she grew up and start over somewhere else. Why again was it too late to make her dream come true? WHY WAS IT “TOO LATE” FOR HER TO CHANGE HER LIFE?
If you couldn’t figure it out, she was afraid. She was afraid to move, afraid to change, and afraid to take the risk. Excuses ranged from “my family is here” to “I worked so hard to gain this position in the bank.” This woman worked in one of those clear cubicles at Bank of America BTW! What a terrible excuse! I’m sure she could have found a lateral move somehow if she chose to do so!
Those words from her mouth were one of the many motivating factors pushing me towards Austin. Despite her unhappiness in her current state, she wasn’t going to do damn thing about it. In 5 years, you were not going to find me sitting at a bar stool somewhere around Buffalo in 2018 wondering, “what if I went to Austin? What would have happened to my life? Oh, I wish I moved!” If I didn’t like something about my current situation, I was going to change it, not complain about it until it was “too late.”
Regardless if it’s a move to another city, changing a job, or even just trying new activity you are afraid to do, it’s NEVER “too late” so stop saying that! YOU control your destiny and future, NOT fear. Fear will keep in you same place you were the day before and the day before that day. Moreover, going outside your comfort zone is good for you! You will learn so much about yourself when you try something new. Take the plunge into the unknown one of these days. It doesn’t matter what you choose. Sure it’s terrifying, but it will be worth it. You will never wonder “what if” ever again.